Advice: Panty Fetish

Q:
I am a man with a panty fetish. I mainly like to wear womens underwear, bras, pantyhose but sometimes i like to dress up. I am really nervous to shop for them! so my question is, How can I get my own panties w/o going online to buy? And my second question is how can I spice up my little fetish? I have been dressing in these things for about 2 years and all I do is wear them under clothes and stuff. So is there any advice you have for me to spice it all up a little? My third question would how can enjoy a little anal play w/o a partner or dildo/buttplug?

A:
It's easy for you to buy panties in person. Lots of men buy lingerie for their women, so you won't seem out of place when shopping at Victoria's Secret, or wherever you choose.

How you spice it up is really determined by your comfort level. If you don't currently have a lover, do you have a female friend who is very open? You two could have a lingerie party together -- try things on for each other and so on. Who knows where that could lead?

As to your last question, it's really a matter of reach. If you are on your own and don't want to use a toy, the only solution I can think of is to lube up a finger and stick it there. Not everyone can accomplish that and I'm personally not tempted to try.

Advice: Concern for a Friend

Q:

My friend likes to Put on girl clothes and pretend he is a girl and have sex with his blanket. Is this wrong? if it is, what can I do?

A:

It's somewhat unusual, especially the part about having sex with his blanket. I assume you mean he is masturbating and somehow involving a comforting blanket in the act. There's nothing wrong with that -- perhaps messy -- nor with dressing up in girl's clothing.

If he is simply doing that in the privacy of his home, there should be no problem. Cross-dressing outside the home can cause problems. I'm not making a judgment, but society does. If you are school age, he will open himself to ridicule. And that can even be true for an adult. It's unfortunate, but that's just how society is.

As to the happy blanket situation, my question is whether this is a substitute for expressing his sexuality, whether straight or gay, with other humans. Especially if he is gay and either does not realize it or is afraid to admit it, and the blanket is a substitute for real relationships, that is not healthy.

I am not a trained therapist, so these are simply my opinions. If after reading this you remain concerned, you might suggest that your friend see a therapist and describe what he is doing to get a professional opinion.