Advice: Gotta Love Giving Head

Q:
Is it just me, or is there a serious double standard surrounding fellatio/cunnilingus? Giving guys head has become so standard that any girl who doesn't do it is considered a repressed prude - which does make sense. But it seems to me that guys who don't go down on girls are treated much more kindly. And if they do, they consider it some kind of freaking accomplishment, rather than the equal counterpart to fellatio. Bullshit reasons such as "surface area" and the penis being "more aesthetically pleasing" than the vagina are of course given.

I have had guys tell me that they enjoy giving me head because it gives me pleasure, but that they don't enjoy it physically. To me this seems awful, basically the equivalent of saying "Well, I'll do this thing because I'm SUCH an amazing lover, but in actual fact your cunt disgusts me." A good lover must love all of my body; if anything, he should love my cunt MORE than anything else. When I am getting head, I want to know he loves the way my cunt smells, tastes and feels, that he would do it just for the sake of how it feels to him. This grudging shit is not cool.

Are you with me? I hope one day women's bodies may be seen as the beautiful miracles that they are. It is time for some freaking liberation!

A:
I'm with you 100%.

Guys, pay attention.

Sin Chew Indeed!

A SECRETARY accidentally bit off the penis of her employer while giving him oral sex in a car.

Sin Chew Daily and China Press reported yesterday that while the 30-year-old woman was performing oral sex on the man, the car was hit by a reversing van.

The impact of the crash, China Press reported, caused the woman to bite off her lover’s organ.

The daily reported that the incident occurred in a Singapore park where the couple met after work.

To make matters worse for the woman, her husband had sent a private investigator to spy on her after suspecting that she was being unfaithful.

The investigator said he had followed the woman and her boss to the park.

“On reaching the park, they did not alight from the car. Not long after, the car started to shake violently.

After the car was hit by the van, there was a loud scream from the woman whose mouth was covered with blood,” he said.

The woman later followed her lover to the hospital with part of the sexual organ.

The investigator, who called an ambulance to send the man to hospital, said that this was the first time he had encountered such an incident.

Advice: How Do I Give a Better Blow Job?

Q:
I need help. I haven't had much experience in the bed, and it shows. Went i went down on my man for the first (and last) time, i had absolutely no idea what to do. and he didn't cum. he loves me enough to be patient, but he's quite shy and isn't comfortable with telling me/showing me exactly how he wants to be touched. I know everyone has different tastes when it comes to oral sex, but could you give me the basic guidelines to the most mind blowing blow job ever?

I love him and i want to make him happy.
please help.

A:
You need to know that not every guy will come from a blow job. And the fact that he didn't isn't proof you weren't bringing him pleasure. Of course, since he's a Silent Sam, it's also possible he wasn't having a good time.

I have to state here that while no-one wants to have to give constant instructions to their partners, we are each unique in how we're built and what we respond to, so it's really unfair to yourself and your partner to refrain from some amount of guidance and feedback.

There are a number of great guides to giving b.j.s on the web, so I won't try to top them. Try here and here and here and here and here.

I would say, for starters, be careful to shield your teeth. Relax and enjoy yourself. If you think of this is a big lollipop or ice cream pop it's hard to go wrong.

Bless you for wanting to please him this way. And by the way, what is he doing for you orally?

Advice: HIV & Oral Stuff

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Advice: Yes You Can... Catch Something

Q:
Now that i am old enough i have been experimenting with lots of different things. One of the things i have just been trying is oral sex... and i must admit that i love it. About a month ago a friend took me to an adult theater. Oh my god! To make a long story short, i ending up sucking off 3 guys in the back of the theater and swallowing their sperm. Now i go every chance i get and always end up with several loads of sperm in my belly, i am addicted. Of course i am worried about what could happen. my question is: do i have to be worried about AIDS or other STDs? What is your advise ? thankyou.

A:
The simple answer is that yes, you are at risk for acquiring HIV or certain other STDs. The odds of catching something are very low, but is it worth putting your health at serious risk for anonymous blow jobs?

Swallowing and spitting likely have the same amount of risk. Even if he pulls out, there's pre-cum. So the long and short of it (hehe) is: this isn't the riskiest behavior, but it's risky nonetheless.

There was a time when I was seeing two women who were both nurses, and they wouldn't put my dick in their mouths without a condom. I made sure to get some nice flavored ones.

I suggest you get a boyfriend who loves blow jobs and can come multiple times in a session. Have him tested, and if he checks out then go to the theater with him and have him pretend he's a few different guys. You'll get your kicks and he'll be very grateful.

Advice: Deep Throat

Q:
I'm a married woman who wants to please her man He says that I do, And that I give great head ;I know that it's good because he cums every time BUT I can't deep throat without gagging. I really want to do this for him sooo, could you give me some tips on how to get my throat muscles to relax. I've tried numbing agents but they numb him also and he doesn't like the feeling or lack thereof.

A:
I think you should start by believing your husband. You're giving him great blow jobs and he's cumming (and many of us need manual stimulation from our woman or by our own hand to cum even with great head).

In my opinion, deep throat is more mystique or athletic than pleasure-providing. I'm not saying it isn't good at all, but it will never replace great fellatio technique. I say this only to assure you that if your motivation comes from a feeling that you should be doing it, relax and forget about it.

There are some people who have a gag reflex and there is nothing you can do about it. But if you want to keep trying, I suggest you practice with some object that is approximately the length and -- as importantly -- width of your husband's penis. Be sure it's something you can remove and won't get caught or stuck in your mouth. A cucumber is an obvious possibility. Or the right dildo. Practice when you're not with your husband.

Breathing technique is important. If you've never taken yoga, look for a class that includes or is focused on yogic breathing. It will help you learn to control your breathing while relaxing into it. I think that will help.

If after such attempts you haven't made progress, don't feel bad. Your husband is a lucky man, and I do believe you are making him happy. BJTC (blow jobs to completion) are a gift.

free facials here!

A post in Fleshbot considers the question of whether semen is good for the complexion.

I once had a girlfriend who was convinced cum was good for her skin. She would give me blow jobs that ended by hand, and I would cum on her chest.

She would then rub my spunk all over her face and leave it there for some minutes before rinsing.

We both felt very good afterwards.

gotta hand it to him

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a special day for men

Mark your calendars: March 14 is Steak & Blow Job Day.

From the web site:

It’s March 14th
You know what that means
I’ll gobble your knob
And juggle your beans
Now eat your steak
Like a good little chum
And when you’re all finished
I’ll swallow your cum!

Love me tender
Love me sweet
On March 14th
It’s all about your meat!

i'm so honored... desireous did me!

At the time this post was originally written, one of the great sex bloggers, desireous, had just finished a marathon session of sucking off lots of lucky male sex bloggers, including yours truly. But when she was finished, she told us this was the grand finale to her blog. Sadly, she decided to take the blog off the air. I saved my portion of the orgy, including the cock-shot I had provided:

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Then I feasted my eyes on Al and his lovely big cock! Al had sent me this picture to give me a clue as to what I would be getting my hands on but his drawing most certainly didn't give that beauty justice!

I stroked Al's hot cock and balls for a few moments and then I swallowed it up like a hungry whore sucking it like it were the last cock on earth! God that was a hot cock! I stroked it with my hand and sucked all at the same time with fondling his balls with my other hand. I took it out of my mouth and rubbed it all over my cum soaked face and then took it back in to suck some more. Al was groaning and I knew I was sucking it good for him. This always makes me happy cause I love a man to walk way thinking, Now that was some good head! I aim to please that I can assure you! I worked that cock while the room cheered me on. I sucked and sucked and worked that shaft with my tongue and took in as much of that big cock as I could manage until finally I made that bad boy bust his load shooting his heavenly cream all over my tongue and lips. What a delightful flavor his spunk had!

my top 5

In an earlier post, I said one of the reasons I buy Cosmopolitan on business trips is I enjoy reading what men really want in bed. I was being a bit facetious. For those not familiar, every issue of Cosmo has an article on this subject and most of them are rehashes of previous articles. This month's is "14 Sex Moves You've Never Heard Of," said title being true only if you've never read Cosmo before!

Anyhow, Ms Smack commented, "Perhaps you could write your 'top 5' requisites of what YOU Want." Hmmm. Well, OK.

1. Suck my nipples. Suck them a lot. Keep going. My main reason for having a threesome fantasy is so I can get them both sucked at the same time (oh, yeah, and then there are the four free hands).
2. Suck my cock. Suck it a lot. Take your time; I'm in no hurry for this to end.
3. Kiss me. A lot. Let's come back to that in between other stuff.
4. Play with my "taint" and around my ass, but I'm not into anal play per se... just get close and I will get close.
5. Squeeze my balls when you can tell I'm ready to cum and I will have an explosive orgasm.

I could keep going, but she said "5" so that's it. I have one more thing to add: Doing things that please you turns me on, so as much as I appreciate a hand job or blow job when you're not in the mood, what I really like best is doing unto you as you do unto me.

Maybe some of you readers and bloggers would like to contribute your top 5.