Tuesday, October 31, 2006

hot and cold running lust

Our love life has been pretty much on a shelf for the past six months as she recovers from an accident. But every now and then -- when she's feeling better, when we're not consumed with her recovery, my work, the kid, the animals, the household -- we reconnect sexually and it is hot.

Knowing that we haven't lost that connection -- that it is just dormant -- makes it much easier to carry on.

A friend was recently traveling on business in a foreign city known for its red light district. His wife had allowed that if he visited the district and took advantage of the services offered there it wouldn't be totally unacceptable, but she didn't want to know about it. When he returned, she changed her tune and asked him point blank whether he had. His truthful answer, "No." Why? "I just love having sex with my wife."

I know how he feels.

sugasm #52

So pleased to be a pick of the week on my other blog! I promise to post the final chapter soon...

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Spotlighting the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #53? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks

Home cooking, part 2 (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)

“A moan escaped her as the smooth richness hit her.”

Waxed (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)

“After polishing off my testicles and perineum, Sam started on the area above and around my cock.”

Office Inspiration (http://emergingontheotherside.blogspot.com)

“Your moans are quite loud now - presumably because everyone else has left the building and you don’t care.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself

Porn Denial (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice

The Taste Tester Sugasm Special! (http://www.maevebeckham.com)

Long time Sugasm readers will remember Maeve’s blog The Taste Tester. Her entries were a regular part of our sexy posts. Now she is releasing her blog in novel form entitled The Taste Tester. To show our congratulations we’ve made hereditors’ choice this week. She has graciously put a full chapter of her book in a special post for Sugasm readers. Thank you Maeve and congratulations again!

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Sex News, Reviews & Interviews

Half-Nekkid Sex Blogger (http://www.tarasnaughtyshop.com)

Sexy Interview - Nikki Benz (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

Venus Berlin Show Report - Porn (http://sextoysinsider.com)

NSFW Pics (& two videos)

The Good: Joon Mali and Lily Koh. The Bad: Sexy Suzie. The Ugly:Ex-Wife From Hell (http://virtual-sex-tourist.com)

Half-Nekkid Thursday: Haunted WebMistress (http://www.taratainton.com)

Hanna Hilton (http://www.ddgirlsblog.com)

Happy HNT - Speed cropping video (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)

Kim Harlow Pin Up Artist (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)

A new kind of post (http://www.internetisforporn.com)

Welcome to “Marital Bliss” by Marital Bliss (http://sexblogwelcome.blogspot.com)

Sex & Politics

“Black” Webcam Chathosts (http://www.model-chat.com)

Getting Laid, Getting Tested, Getting AIDS (http://smutandsteff.com)

Help Fight the War on Porn (http://blog.babeland.com)

In Bush Country Books on Sex Don’t Sell (http://suzanneportnoy.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

5 things you don’t know about me (http://hard-and-fast.blogspot.com)

Don’t fuck the pregnant lady! (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)

A New Monogamy (http://www.longrelationships.com)

Strike one (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)

Swinger vs. Poly: What IS Polyamory? Part 2 (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)

Tarts in Tartan, Part 1 (http://thelibertinewife.com/blog)

You Are Not Alone If You Are Alone (http://www.teen-porn-site.com)

BDSM and Fetish

Disciplinary (http://gentlygently.blogspot.com)

Distracting myself (http://sugarbutch.blogspot.com)

In which I dream of Dr Butler’s cunt (http://thediaryofanenglishrose.blogspot.com)

Isabella’s Eyes - Part XI (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)

Make-Up Sex is the Best Sex (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)

Pink Champagne (http://aliceinawonderbra.blogspot.com)

A Week in July (http://asparkle2.blogspot.com)

Your suggestion is my command (http://bratmaster.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences

24 (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)

Fusionnement (http://www.easilyaroused.co.uk)

I Crave Touch (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)

Just A Few (http://principles-of-lust.blogspot.com)

Licking my pussy (http://dirtylittlecockslut.blogspot.com)

New Found Skin (http://engrailed.com)

On The Sidewalk (http://makemycopcome.blogspot.com)

Lori - Part 1 (http://masterenigma.blogspot.com)

Touch me (http://nocloudnine.blogspot.com)

The Wave (http://baring.blogspot.com)

Thursday, October 26, 2006

5 things you don't know about me

Katie Schwartz tagged me for this one, so blame her. This is a sex blog and I'm sticking with that theme:

  1. I can count my life list of sex partners on one hand. (I use the other hand to jerk off.) The prostitutes don't count.
  2. I got my first blow job ever from a prostitute at the Moonlight Ranch (before it was the swank Moonlight Bunny Ranch on HBO) in Carson City, Nevada when I was 36.
  3. I am over 50 and never did any creative writing until one night this past August when I was really horny and wrote my first sex story. I started a sex blog the next day after writing another story.
  4. I have spent more money at strip clubs and massage parlors than I did on my college education. I think I learned more at the strip clubs and massage parlors.
  5. I have dreamt of being a sex industry entrepreneur. I don't think my wife would like that.

I would tag some of you, but not every sex blogger wants to reveal things they haven't yet chosen to. If you're inspired to do this, put it on your blog or in a comment.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

sugasm #51

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Spotlighting the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #52? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Tempting Decisions — a dialogue (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)

Petting Teacher (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)

D-Day for Dior (http://theholidaylife.blogspot.com)

Mr. Sugasm Himself

Porn Fatigue (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice

First Taste (http://engrailed.com)

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Erotic Writing and Experiences

Ahh The Weekend - The Second Night (http://mandyseroticlife.blogspot.com)

Giving it my all (http://sexandtheivy.com)

I want you (http://sexcakes.blogspot.com)

Like Kids in a Candy Story Part II (http://www.taratainton.com)

Phone subbacultcha (http://pick-up-pieces.blogspot.com)

The Story of Fifteen (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)

There’s Something About A Blonde (http://makemycopcome.blogspot.com)

U wanan cybr? (http://finforhertograb.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Bow, chicka chicka, wow (http://www.jessicagoldharalson.com)

Melanaise’s Specs (Da Bootyologist) (http://wetbeyondbelief.blogspot.com)

My top 5 (http://hard-and-fast.blogspot.com)

The Politics of Tease and Denial (http://fullfrontalpolitics.com)

Swinger vs. Poly: What Exactly IS Polyamory? Part 1 (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)

The Vibe Is Dead, Long Live The Vibe!! (http://talktovanessa.com)

NSFW Pics (& a video)

Casey Parker Poses For DDGirls (http://www.ddgirlsblog.com)

CockCuntblogging Wednesday 9 (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

Emergency Boobs For The Sniggs (http://www.internetisforporn.com)

Erection Workout (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)

Monica passes the phat booty test (http://phatbootysolos.ilovejulienight.com)

Natural Beauty (http://hotboxbabe.thumblogger.com)

ObsessionArt (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

more top 5s

Well, Ms. Smack, who incited me to write my top 5 and then posted hers (but it was really six) has received several great top 5 lists on her comments. Great reading!

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

sugasm #50

We’re celebrating a milestone this week. Thanks to all of our sexy writers we’ve made it to our 50th Sugasm. Congratulations!

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Spotlighting the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #51? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Dear Diary - Part One (http://wetbeyondbelief.blogspot.com)

The Lure of Darkness (http://www.easilyaroused.co.uk)

Flash (http://gentlygently.blogspot.com)

Mr. Sugasm Himself

50 Simultaneous Bloggasm’s… (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice

Let go, just let go (http://sugarbutch.blogspot.com)

More Sugasm

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Sex News and Sexy Reviews

Anastasia Probes the Pornos of Michael Ninn (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)

Doc Johnson Dick Rambone Cock (http://www.orgasmarmy.com)

Free whores of warcraft video (http://sultry.naughtyblog.net)

How to invent a sex toy - week 4 (http://sextoysinsider.com)

The Secret Porn History of Mahna Mahna (http://www.quirkysex.com/blog)


Cum Shot HNT (http://stilettodiaries.blogspot.com)

Crazy Bitch HNT!!! (http://texasspitfire.blogspot.com)

Half-Nekkid Hottie (http://www.tarasnaughtyshop.com)

HNT 31 - Are You Paying Me For Sex Edition? (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)

Lingerie Battle (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)

Nora Marlo Nude (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)

Pornstar Legends (http://www.internetisforporn.com)

Thick booty with a wedgie (http://phatbootysolos.ilovejulienight.com)

Valia - Vision (http://hotboxbabe.thumblogger.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

50 Ways To Leave Your Lover (http://saphirsatya.blogspot.com)

The “backdoor”, I went in. (http://wanklog.blogspot.com)

Big Dicks (http://www.model-chat.com)

Celebrity Sex Tapes (http://www.teen-porn-site.com)

Cock size & male ego size… a balancing act? (http://faltenin.blogspot.com)

Cocktoberfest - Day 9 (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

From Working The Fields To Working The Streets (http://virtual-sex-tourist.com/index.php)

The Girl Inside the Steff (http://smutandsteff.com)

Longing for a Woman’s Touch Part II (http://www.taratainton.com)

The next best thing to hotel sex… (http://hard-and-fast.blogspot.com)

Of fluffers and cake frosting (http://www.jessicagoldharalson.com)

Perfect Porn Part (http://alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com

Sexual Thoughts–I’m “Coping!” (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)

Somebody not too bright but sweet and kind… (http://lumpesse.com)

Wrap Around (http://www.seskuality.com)

You Say Pain, They Say Play (http://cuntinglinguist.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish

Are you sure? (http://www.blog.sex-mad-witch.com)

Boris called me this morning (http://thediaryofanenglishrose.blogspot.com)

Darth Vader spanking (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)

How does that ass feel after Me raping you??? (http://www.caramelvixen.com)

I Need A Spanking! (http://accidentalmistress.blogspot.com)

The Importance of Correct Attire (http://adelehaze.com)

Knots (http://ourdreaming.blogspot.com)

Mecca-Streisand of Traffic (http://spankingkatiespades.blogspot.com)

My Tiny Dick Poll Question (http://www.spoiledebonyprincess.com)

Next day (http://bratmaster.blogspot.com)

Nothing Says Innocence Like…… (http://aliceinawonderbra.blogspot.com)

Sex Work

L.A. Trip Part 2- Mismatched Whores (http://radicalvixen.com/blog)

Stimulating me…..the right way (http://www.justcalllauren.com)

A Whore By Any Other Name … (http://lipstickexplosion.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Actually wanking outside (http://orgasmcurious.blogspot.com)

Almost in real time… (http://dontwakethekids.blogspot.com)

Beachside encounter (http://skyoto.blogspot.com/)

The Beauty of the Beast (http://principles-of-lust.blogspot.com)

Birthday Gift (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)

Claiming A Friend’s Pussy (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)

Cowboy Cocksucker (http://theholidaylife.blogspot.com)

Desperate (http://pick-up-pieces.blogspot.com)

Goose Bumps (http://masterenigma.blogspot.com)

Home cooking, part 1 (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)

Island Love (http://mandyseroticlife.blogspot.com)

Joint: The Cyber Seck Convo (http://totalgeeklust.blogspot.com)

Mr Henry is a voyeur (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)

My First Taste (http://talktovanessa.com)

Nature Hike (http://wantonyou.blogspot.com)

Sugar Stick (http://makemycopcome.blogspot.com)

There’s Something About Tristan (and Dana) (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)

Who I Wished It Was (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)

Sunday, October 15, 2006

going public

My wife showed me this item from the online advice column, Dear Margo, and I nearly plotzed:


About a year ago, my husband started writing and publishing stories in a local newspaper. He never told me or showed me the stories. I heard about them from friends and then read them. The stories are about sexual behavior and fantasies involving other women. He uses the first person for the main character. I do not feel comfortable with this and haven't wanted to have sex with him anymore. I asked him why he had to publish these stories. He said they were made up and he wouldn't write them anymore. I
trusted him, but recently found that he was doing it again. All his stories are about sex. Is he sick? I really can't have sex with him when I think of the stories. He thinks I am overreacting. He still wants sex with me. Should I take him to see a therapist?



I would take him to a creative writing class to help him change the subject. First of all, I cannot imagine what kind of a local paper would publish stories about sexual fantasies. And second, I don't know what's up with a man who says he won't do it anymore and then continues. One would think that your Lysistrata maneuver would have stopped the stories, but perhaps you need to be explicit: No more amorous activities until the public flights of imagination cease. And if he is trying to send you a message, tell him you do not wish to read it in the newspaper.


Given how easy it is to be anonymous on the internet, the fact that this guy is writing for locally published hardcopy and using his real name indicates to me THAT HE HAS A PROBLEM!

Probably part of his problem is that he is seething with sexuality and his wife is fairly buttoned up. But it's difficult to blame her for her reaction. This guy needs to be a blogger.

Margo, however, lacks imagination if she can't imagine what kind of local paper would publish sex stories. Not that there's one everywhere, but lots of cities have local sex tabloids. And I wonder about what this woman thinks of her friends who are reading those rags!

Saturday, October 14, 2006

my top 5

In an earlier post, I said one of the reasons I buy Cosmopolitan on business trips is I enjoy reading what men really want in bed. I was being a bit facetious. For those not familiar, every issue of Cosmo has an article on this subject and most of them are rehashes of previous articles. This month's is "14 Sex Moves You've Never Heard Of," said title being true only if you've never read Cosmo before!

Anyhow, Ms Smack commented, "Perhaps you could write your 'top 5' requisites of what YOU Want." Hmmm. Well, OK.

  1. Suck my nipples. Suck them a lot. Keep going. My main reason for having a threesome fantasy is so I can get them both sucked at the same time (oh, yeah, and then there are the four free hands).
  2. Suck my cock. Suck it a lot. Take your time; I'm in no hurry for this to end.
  3. Kiss me. A lot. Let's come back to that in between other stuff.
  4. Play with my "taint" and around my ass, but I'm not into anal play per se... just get close and I will get close.
  5. Squeeze my balls when you can tell I'm ready to cum and I will have an explosive orgasm.

I could keep going, but she said "5" so that's it. I have one more thing to add: Doing things that please you turns me on, so as much as I appreciate a hand job or blow job when you're not in the mood, what I really like best is doing unto you as you do unto me.

Maybe some of you readers and bloggers would like to contribute your top 5.

Monday, October 09, 2006

the next best thing to hotel sex...

...is hotel masturbation.

Alone in a room, away from home and family, it's just so much easier to conjure rich fantasies. Sometimes those fantasies are fueled by women I've seen in the lobby or elevator.

Plus there is no concern about someone walking in on me, or someone needing to use the bathroom while I am, ahem, busy, or hearing voices in the house that distract me from my mission. I can relax and proceed.

If I'm going strong, I might go 2-3 times a day during a hotel stay, while at home I'm a once-a-day guy at best.

I am very respectful and do not shoot seed on carpet, bedspread or other fibers. Remember that TV show a few years back where they used ultra-violet light to discern semen on the bedspreads in hotel rooms? Gross. Ever since then, when I check into a room I immediately pull the spread off the bed with as little direct contact as possible.

If I want added inspiration, I bring a magazine. No, not porn, not Playboy. I bring Cosmo. The sex stories are better than Penthouse Forum and there are lots of great fashion and underwear articles and ads. Plus I always enjoy reading what men really want in bed.